Still in a funk
by Toni Kemp
The Hubs has been gone for a week and I am still in a ‘funk’. This is normal for a couple of days after he deploys, but it has never gone on this long. I hope I am able to snap out of it soon. I don’t like myself like this, it’s not me. I could have had a fun busy weekend, but instead opted out on everything- definitely not me.
I know that I have a few other military spouses that read this blog, how do you deal with this? Do you even go through a ‘funk’ period? One moment I wish I could just snap out of it, other times I want to be left alone so I can be gloomy. Willing to listen to advice- just please no one tell me to go see my doctor and to pop a pill!
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June 18th, 2007 at 7:55 am
I was the same way and eventually started doing things. I think you have to do everything that is best for you and your son. If that means being isolated for a few days it really is ok. I just felt guilty for doing things that I knew my husband couldn’t do. I stayed in for days just cleaning everything in the house - that is kind of like therapy to me. Keep us posted on how things are going. You shouldn’t have to be alone during this time - if you don’t want to talk to the other spouses on base I’m always here!
June 18th, 2007 at 9:28 am
(((hugs))) I remember this feeling all too well, only happened one time but once was too much for me. Try to do ANYTHING that’ll take your mind away from it, even for a few minutes. I know it is hard not to think about it every second. Go out and grab a book and take the kids to the pool if ya can.
June 18th, 2007 at 1:17 pm
Its got to be normal to feel like that. Im not even an military spouse and think this is a normal response. Relax and wallow, you need that time. And if you wont take the pill, go to the doc and then give it to me.
June 19th, 2007 at 12:36 am
I understand completely that urge to just “pull back” and isolate yourself - it was the main way I coped with most of the stressful situations that came up during Sgt. Crankypants’ deployment. If I was stressed out about his R&R, or the possibility of him getting extended, the last thing I could handle was making small-talk with my mother or my in-laws about it. Especially when you don’t know anything for certain - it’s so hard to get people to understand that just because you’re married to the person deployed doesn’t mean you know anything more than they do.
I don’t have much in the way of advice, but all I can say is that it’s completely reasonable and normal. I did a lot of crafty stuff with my hands during those times - scrapbooking and crocheting. If you have something like that you can work on to keep your mind occupied, you might give it a try.
I’m thinking good thoughts for you.