Operation Homecoming- Part One
When a deployment ends, the families left at home are ecstatic, to put it lightly. But with the joy of a long awaited reunion, comes readjusting that takes place right before, as well as after the homecoming. As I am counting down the days until our happy reunion, I thought I would do a “blog mini-series” on the preparation, as well as helpful tips for the family at home for a smoother transition and to help understand that the reunion process is not always easy and it is more likely for some tensions to occur, than for everything to go smoothly. And this is completely normal!
The spouse left behind may change rules to better fit the needs of the family during a deployment. For example, I know that I recently changed the rule about eating in the bedrooms. The world will not stop spinning because a peanut butter sandwich wasn’t consumed in the kitchen. If it is a “small battle” that can make my life a tad bit easier, you better believe I will change a rule in the blink of an eye!
I have learned a little bit more about myself with each deployment. The first deployment, I became much more independent than I ever thought I could be. Whether it was repairs around the house, yard work, or car maintenance, just to name a few, these responsibilities were now in my lap. I hadn’t realized just how much the hubby took care of until that point.
TIPS FOR SPOUSES :
- Avoid scheduling too many things.
- Go easily in making adjustments.
- You and your spouse may need time for yourself.
- Remind him is still needed in the family.
- Discuss splitting up the family chores.
- Along with time for the family, make individual time to talk.
- Be patient with yourself and your partner.
Military, Deployment, Homecoming
October 1st, 2007 at 7:59 am
Amen to that! No one told me I would have to learn to live with my husband again after his deployment. I thought it was something wrong with me, they really should let spouses know that things will be difficult for a while especially if spouse has been in a combat zone situation.
October 1st, 2007 at 6:58 pm
I agree Magnolia Sun- it is an adjustment to live with them again. I hate how his shit is always all over my house!
October 1st, 2007 at 11:04 pm
one investment before hubby comes home, TV Trays
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